Quran, being a book of human existence, also deals with concepts of love which are perennial in the human experience. Quran tells us how we should love and more importantly, the kinds of love that exist. Once we understand these concepts, we may better deal with our own experiences.
This is the love we have for other human beings. They may be positive or negative:
Wadda used positively:
And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquillity with them, and He has put love (muwaddah) and mercy between your (hearts): verily in that are Signs for those who reflect. (30/21)
Wadda used negatively
Thou wilt indeed find them, of all people, most greedy of life,-even more than the idolaters: Each one of them wishes (waddu) He could be given a life of a thousand years: But the grant of such life will not save him from punishment. For Allah sees well all that they do (2/96)
Allah is al-wadud (the one who attaches) but ironically not Al-habib, the lover (related to habba below)
The word ‘habba’ or ‘habbat’ means a ‘seed’. Therefore the verb form ‘yuhibbu’ is to give energy to this seeds and cause germination. It would like growing a tree. Habba does not appear as noun or adjective when speaking about Allah (al-habeeb). Rather, the verb form (yuhibbu) is used. Allah loves or does not love. Interestingly, there is no statements in which Allah hates (bughd) or even dislikes (karh) groups of people. He either loves or does not love.
Allah loves the following personalities:
And spend of your substance in the cause of Allah, and make not your own hands contribute to (your) destruction; but do good; for Allah loves those who do good (al-muhsineen) (2/195)
…. For God loves those who turn to Him constantly (at-tawwabeen) and He loves those who keep themselves pure and clean (al-mutahharoon). (2/222)
How many of the prophets fought, and with them Large bands of nourishers and sustainers? but they never lost heart if they met with disaster in Allah’s way, nor did they weaken nor give in. And Allah Loves those who are firm and steadfast (as-sabireen) (3/146)
Nay.- Those that fulfil their covenant and preserve themselves,-verily Allah loves those who take guard (al-muttaqeen) (3/76)
Allah does not love the following personalities:
Fight in the cause of Allah those who fight you, but do not transgress the limits; for Allah loveth not transgressors (al-mu’tadoon) (2/190)
When he turns his back, His aim everywhere is to spread mischief through the earth and destroy crops and cattle. But Allah loves not mischief (al-fasad) (2/205)
Allah will deprive usury of all blessing, but will give increase for deeds of charity: For He loves not concealing debilitations (kaffar itheem) (2/276)
…We give to men and men by turns: that Allah may know those that believe, and that He may take to Himself from your witnesses. And Allah loves not the oppressors (azh-zhalimoon) (3/140).
There is only one Quranic personality who is directly connected to a state of Allah’s love (mahabbah) and that is Musa. He was raised under the love of Allah and thus grew into a balanced personality:
Throw (the child) into the chest, and throw (the chest) into the river: the river will cast him up on the bank, and he will be taken up by one who is an enemy to Me and an enemy to him’: But I cast a state of love (mahabbah) over you from Me: and in order that thou may be reared under my fountain of nourishment.(20/39)
If we read this metaphorically, we may see that if we undertake musa’s mission, we may come into the state of mahabbah under Allah.